Sorry Should Be The Hardest Word To Say

May 8, 2015


  • The Power of Words
  • The ‘I am sorry’-mentality
  • Perceived Weaknes

The Power of Words

Words can be powerful things. Someone who has a depression might be constantly saying to themselves that life is useless, not worth living. They will use these words in their everyday speech as well, and in doing so they convey negative emotions just by speaking and can also make other people around them depressed just through their choice of words. Someone who avoids social situations would tell themselves they are not the extroverted type and they can never compete with upbeat party people. They say this to themselves so convincingly that they do not even bother to go out and try.

A Buddhist monk would continually free his mind of all these thoughts through meditation and prayers affirming the beauty of life. In this instance I do not want you to dwell on your internal dialogue specifically but rather how the things you say to others can affect your own self-esteem and the way other people see you.

The ‘I am sorry’-mentality

Constantly apologizing is one of the things that can keep you stuck in a mindset where you feel subservient and have the need to appease everyone you encounter for the fear that they will either physically or emotionally hurt you. The problem is people now use the term “sorry” for many social interactions which do not warrant an apology. There are other words which work just as well without making you feel you need to be apologetic for your actions.

In effect the goal is not so much for you to say sorry, excuse me or to apologize less when you are in the wrong but rather wait until someone has a legitimate grievance with you before you do. Spend a week not apologizing for normal everyday things such as moving past someone in a crowd, not having the right change for the newsagent or making a joke that was not exactly a crowd pleaser. Wait until people stop you and let you know there’s a problem, you will be pleasantly surprised at how often you do not need to say sorry which will evolve towards positive thoughts.

Perceived Weakness

Saying sorry does not make you weak but saying sorry too frequently for trivial things and when you genuinely do not feel you need to apologize will make you feel week and be perceived as weak. Also keep in mind that the more you use apologies for every-day occurrences and when they genuinely are not needed you reduce their potency for when they are really needed.

The idea of not saying sorry when you do not need to stems back to the idea that the whole reason behind this method of seduction is to disturb the norm; to differentiate yourself from what the average male does. The average male may tell a woman a joke that she does not find funny or says is stupid or offensive. He would apologize just on the off chance that he really did offend her even if he genuinely believes he was in the right.

This can relate back to shit-tests, a lot of grievances people have are to get attention or create drama in their lives as it can give them something to do or complain about to their friends.

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