4 Life Hacks for Avoiding Rejection
Learning how to approach a girl is something that has been discussed by men since the dawn of time. There are many different schools of thought on just how to approach a girl, however, I would like to focus on the non-verbal aspect of this skill as I feel most men forget that a good first impression can make your life a lot easier.
The issue for most guys
What men say is contradicted by how they look and how they say it. You could be saying something that is confident and attractive without appearing confident and attractive. You look hunched, your voice is wavering, your eye contact is either way too intense or totally nonexistent and you’re not dressed like most confident hip guys. In learning how to approach a girl we will try to get you around these issues.
How men can attract women
The best thing to do is to tape yourself. I do this with all my students who I am teaching how to approach a girl and record what they say. There are a few key things by which I judge their success and I don’t care if they succeed or not because sometimes they can just fluke it. They need to have their game tight so that they can handle both the mice and the cheetahs. I take a head-to-toe approach.
1) Your Voice
You need to be talking to her as if she’s the 100th attractive woman you’ve spoken to today. This is easy to say but hard to do, particularly when you’re anxious. You need to do at least three approaches as practice before you start taking yourself seriously. The best way not to be nervous with women is by exposing yourself to them. It sucks but it’s the only way to get you more complacent with your nerves. The problem is that your voice gives you away. It’s often too fast, stilted or too soft. Either way, you’re contradicting the confident things you’re saying if you’re doing one of these things.
2) Your Posture
The boring things your mother used to tell you about standing up straight were right. If only she told you that it could help you get pussy later in life, I’m sure you’d take her words more seriously. Most of us are taller than the women to whom we’re talking. This causes us to hunch a bit so we don’t look too overpowering. Standing up straight can be intimidating but a hunch makes you look needy and validation-seeking. Worst of all, you just don’t stand like most confident guys do. The secret on how to get good posture when learning how to approach a woman is to lean back with your chin slightly raised just to keep your head from sticking out from your body like a pigeon. How far back? Well, my general rule is to lean back far enough so that the top of your manhood is touching firm against the inside of your zipper. I don’t mean walk around protruding your love-meat; it’s a subtle thing that is not meant for that but does get your hips where they need to be to help direct your torso.
3) Your Eyes
Having good eye contact does not mean “do not break eye contact.” Normal people break eye contact by looking to the side and just looking around in general. Obviously don’t look as if you’re not paying attention but seriously avoid being someone who is basically staring at your woman as you’re talking to her, otherwise you will develop a bad case of what my girlfriend calls “serial killer face.” Break eye contact every 20 seconds or so. It will help with your nerves too because looking her dead in the eye can seem quite confrontational if you’re learning how to approach a woman you’ve just met.
4) Be within Touching Distance
One thing that ends an approach quicker than Ellen DeGeneres ends a fish burger is your zoning. Keep note that I discuss all of these things in-depth inside the course but in short when learning how to approach a woman you need to be in the “social zone” which is standing about 0.5 to 1 meter away from each other. Often there can be a lull in the conversation and both of you realize that you’re standing about a step further away from each other than real friends would when they talk. This will just reassure both of you that you simply don’t have the level of rapport friends have, let alone lovers. It’s just bait for awkwardness and worst of all when you’re stretching over to touch her on the side of shoulder, forearm, hard or even face it looks very unnatural and forced. Yes, this type of touching is appropriate and it is essential for knowing how to approach a woman and keep her attracted to you. Her physical hardwires are too potent to neglect and the earlier you start building up your touches from getting her attention when opening to using touches for emphasis/gesticulation then to helping bolster your verbal advances and mimic them physically.
All things essential to getting her hot fast and if you can’t do it quickly and effectively then every minute more is a greater risk of losing her. From my Online Dating Course for Men: http://seduceinseconds.com/dating-course-for-men you can find more lessons and hidden camera videos about approaching girls and creating attraction.