How To Avoid The Friends Zone

September 2, 2016


  • No More Friend Zone – The Importance of Emotional Topics
  • The Emotional Rollercoaster Ride
  • A Real Life Example

No More Friend Zone – The Importance of Emotional Topics

As a general rule, always follow the emotive avenues / threads / opportunities of a conversation. Different people call it different things but ultimately a conversation will provide you with a variety of options. Try to go with the one that is the most emotionally involved and you are guaranteed not to end up in the friend zone ever again..

Some dating coaches use “following emotional topics” as the sole basis for their teaching just to emphasize how important this is. This is by far the most important thing you will ever learn about building rapport and keeping conversations interesting, so put a bookmark here so you can come back to it later.

The Emotional Rollercoaster Ride

The rationale behind Emotional Topics is mentioned in our other article “How To Be Indifferent: Push and Pull Technique Introduced” and is referred to as the emotional rollercoaster. Men who fail to communicate emotively are either considered boring or as friends by the women they are trying to seduce. They fail to communicate to them on a level that sparks interest.

Speaking emotively is just as important as water is to a pool. You can have the pool but if you fail to fill it with water there was no point hopping in to begin with, it’s boring. If you fill it half up with water you can have some fun but if you continue to fill it to the brim you can do anything from deep-diving to backstroke to peeing in the deep end.

The more emotion you fill her with the more options you have. If you want to go swimming you need to have the water there first.

A Real Life Example

Let’s look at an example:

You’re in a bar, you just ordered a drink and you begin talking with Libby, a radiologist who works across the road. She asks you how your day was. You have the following options to choose from:


You: It was good thanks

Her: Oh, that’s good….goodbye


You: Pretty long

Her: Yeah, I know the feeling…goodbye.


You: Same old stuff

Her: Cool….


You: Really good

Her: Cool, why is that?

You: Um…I’m not sure, I guess it’s because I got off early

Her: Do you usually ‘get off’ early

You: Wait…no, I didn’t mean it like that…shit

Her: Bye


You: Amazing, you know when you just wake up in the morning and feel the need to get shit done? I felt like that today and it’s so rare for me because I usually find work just draaaaaaagggggsss onnnnnnnnnn and onnnnnnnnn

Her: I haven’t had that feeling for ages, maybe it’s because I dread going to work

You: There’s nothing worse than not loving your job, you just feel so complacent with your pay check after a while, it’s motivation until you spend it within two days of cashing it.

Her: I’m terrible with saving, I know the feeling

Obviously the last option would be the most successful.



Gave a non-standard answer

used engaging terms
you, I, feel, felt

elongated your words for emphasis
draaaaaaaaagggggggs onnnnnnn

were broad
There’s nothing worse than not loving your job

used emotive words
dread, loving , complacent, motivation

followed the emotive avenues
dreading work > lack of motivation

The result?

She was emotionally engaged, saw you as interesting and you laid the foundations for attraction. This is a sure thing and one of the most important techniques to use if you wan’t to avoid the dreaded friend zone. Now that you how the basics of Emotional Topics covered, you should continue to learn more from my amazing Online Dating Course for Men. There you can find lessons and videos that will instantly improve your dating life.

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