Easy steps to picking up a woman
Learning how to pick up a girl sounds unbelievable to some and fantasy-like to most. “You either have it or you don’t” is the old-school sentiment that still lingers in men who, mostly, have never known how to pick up a girl.
Every seasoned ladies’ man knows or at least has an inkling that when it comes to picking up girls, experience will tell you what works and what doesn’t. Which, put simply, is crap and I’ll tell you why by showing you the basics of how to pick up a girl.
The Four Pillars of Seduction
These are the four pillars of seduction, the unbreakable overarching principles which I have been teaching men for the past six years when they want to know how to pick up a girl.
Now these won’t mean anything to you yet but what I can guarantee is that you will fare much better with these under your belt than your friends telling you to “just be confident.”
Playfulness is essential in creating a light, flirty conversation with a woman with no awkwardness. It seems vague but it is the key to having good conversations with women. It is said a lot, you feel it sometimes but why can’t playfulness stay around and be effective at work, at home, at a club or during a bad mood?
Playfulness is everything in your physical and verbal delivery. It’s not what you say but rather how you say it. However, know that if you’re trying to be funny or if you’re the kind of guy who consistently says the wrong thing at the wrong time, come with me and let me help you.
Remember: it’s not what you say, it’s how you say it.
I was out with a student five years ago in a club teaching him how to pick up a girl using playfulness. I told him that I would approach two different women and tell each of them to “get fucked.”
One would love it, the other would hate it. Inside our online course I go into it in more detail but all you really need to know at this initial stage is that my intonation changed how it was received and got me laid. I said:
T: “I bet that cocktail is just pure alcohol.”
Her: “No no, I don’t get drunk in public.”
T: “Get fucked! I swore I saw you puking old vodka into that pot plant over there a few moments ago.”
Her: “Haha, I do have have my nights; I just don’t think this is going to be a big one for me.”
T: “Really? I was really hoping I could hold your hair back while you’re sick and slowly move in as the “safe” guy friend and tell you in a few years that I’ve been into you since we met.”
Now there are a few things going on here. Making fun of social norms and typically accepted but rarely acknowledged relationships and clichés are a solid part of playfulness. However, here it was all about the intonation, how I said “get fucked,” so as to move the conversation initially into a more casual space.
Elongate your “playful” words or phrases. I have videos on www.seduceinseconds.com which can more accurately show you how to deliver playfulness both physically and vocally. For your purposes in learning how to pick up a girl you should simply don a cheeky smile and stretch out/elongate your words.
Instead of “GET FUCKED,” which would be screamed or muttered resentfully under the breath of man who just got rejected by his fourth “lesbian,” this is “geeeeeet fuuucked.” It’s not pronounced “geet” instead of “get,” it is just simply the “get” and “fucked” sounds that you keep and stretch out.
The elongating of the words opens doors for you to be sarcastic. While doing step one your facial expression and physical delivery come next to seal the deal and get her into a loose and flirty conversation.
Pushing her shoulder lightly with your hand and smiling as you make the comment will get you out of more awkward situations and help you to pick up up women without tension more than any techniques. Best of all, it’s simple and easy to remember.
Until next time,