Speed Follows Simplicity:
Seven self interested reasons to keep it simple with women
It’s never been easier to find a solution to a specific dating problem. A technique, a process or even an inner game course: they’re all just a few clicks away so why restrict yourself when learning how to pick up girls? You can never remember all of the techniques, tips, hints and past learning experiences. When you’re looking at a woman whose undivided attention alone is turning you on because she’s just that hot, well, you often risk having a mental blank because your nervousness short circuits your brain a little. If it’s not a mental blank, it’s mental blank’s pesky deranged brother “nervousness.” With this you will often talk too much and too quickly and are purely content reliant.
Pickup lines and techniques
The lines, processes and hidden camera videos on how to pick up a girl (at the gym, for instance) are easy training wheels to get you seeing results quickly in a cool way. If you try to memorize them all and recall them when you’re overexcited or nervous you’ll find that those 200 and whatever techniques you’ve learned will be reduced down to one common thought at crunch time: “Fuck! What am I going to say next?”
My answer to that is to use a playful tease twice, compliment her once and advance your kino escalation attempts four to five times… That was a joke, even though it’s not funny enough to laugh at out loud because part of you may have just gotten a chubby at the thought of discovering my “next magic bullet/miracle cure/etc.” I like to keep two things in mind to make sure that any guy looking for a way to pick up girls quickly and simply does it right. I’ve outlined them here in seven self interested reasons for keeping it simple with women. Do not undervalue its significance among the hype.
#7 Simplicity = Results = Confidence Fast
Seduce In Seconds’ 18,000 infield tests over the past six years have consistently shown that your confidence will suffer if you learn techniques without ever formulating your own solutions. Your confidence is impaired from how you learn, not just from what you learn. If you train yourself to remember 300 things and then you get nervous they will inevitably go out the window even if they are a “game plan for approach anxiety.”
Forget minor fixes; you need a game plan for The Game itself. That game plan does not lie in an approach anxiety fix if you’re nervous and, for example, want to pick up a girl in a club. It lies in simplicity and learning how to apply only a few key ideas that work across all areas of seduction and human interaction. Everything else is just an example showing how you can use these core processes. The problem is that these things are often so vague that they can never be implemented practically. That’s why I’ve spent the past six years formulating my four core principles and testing them worldwide. They are:
We film them time and time again to make sure our memories don’t taint what really happened. Stall outs and mental blanks were resolved when I changed the way Seduce In Seconds approached social interaction. Learning only four key things which are easy to apply and keep in the forefront of your mind lets you create your solutions and gives you more confidence and faith in your abilities.
Far more importantly, your confidence will skyrocket once you stop having mental blanks caused by “material anxiety” (how do I remember and apply what I’ve learned in a sincere and non-robotic way). No more mental blanks means it’s easier for you to seem cool, calm, collected and indifferent (essential goals). You can think clearly and just apply these four core things at will where they’re needed and even to recover from mistakes. I don’t have room to explain them here but I have a guide that you’ll soon be able to download showing you ways to pick up girls by using them.
#6 People Don’t Doubt You
With simplicity comes sincerity. Thinking too hard about what to do next takes your brain and your sincerity out of any conversation that you will have with women. Staying in the moment and not getting lost in a maze of “solutions” which sound like miracle cures is the way to go. The days of having six steps for approach anxiety, three for a good conversation and three for getting a kiss are over. Only four core principles are what I believe you need to know to pick up a girl and be an effective pickup artist (which, to me, requires speed and efficiency). You’ll get so distracted from thinking about what technique to use and forget that you need to also think about how you’re going to deliver in a way that doesn’t look contrived.
Take note that this also applies to “inner” and “natural” game confidence solutions couched in spiritual rants about “deep purpose” and other things that rarely show consistent results. I’m not saying these things don’t exist but I’ve never seen any of them work quickly and consistently nor be filmed and tested. Many people say that my stuff doesn’t work or isn’t real. Though the argument is good you need to test it all yourself before you make a decision. If something works, keep it or get the right person to teach you. How about you just sit there and talk to that hot girl and use these four simple things when you get the chance. How does that sound? The benefits are obvious when it comes to conversations and confidence when you approach it this way. Your sincerity and focus on both the woman and your context promote sincere and interesting conversations.
#5 More Respect
You will get more respect with women. You will not be looked at like a sleazy guy coming up to a woman for a quick shot at whether he can put himself through her. You will be seen as sincere, confident, laid back and attractive. Once the social proof kicks in and you start to realize that external validation is important to keeping confidence in your life, you’ll feel even more attractive.
Not trying too hard to use these four principles will get you laid quicker than trying with more effort to learn, recall and apply a myriad of techniques and lines.
#4 You Get To Be Lazy
Try being lazier; it will actually help. More mental effort on your behalf will show either through
- talking too fast.
- mental blanks.
- giving replies that show you were thinking about what to say next and not really listening.
My guys who have learned this know that we’re a rarity because this is not a different method. Rather, it’s a different approach to learning and implementing things in a way that will allow you to know how to pick up a girl both quickly and realistically. This is all assuming you approach women at all. If you don’t approach you will waste more time filling your head and getting information overload which, in effect, will make your approach anxiety worse.
#3 Live Like a Celebrity
Approach anxiety arises simply out of the fact that you doubt you can pick up that girl for sure and handle everything that comes your way. Unlike celebrities, some social engineers have an undying dedication to finding faster and easier ways to pick up women. People often seem to think we are celebrities because we become popular in a room of people very quickly. People wonder who you are and when they find out you’re nobody they love you even more because you’re a real rarity.
However, like celebrities, men who approach women get complacent with their results and their nerves. Soon they begin to have a “celebrity-like” impression on people because they’re cool, laid back, popular, respected and all that other stuff. They show indifference as to what they do to achieve all of those things and people keep buying it. What this means is that just like celebrities, we simple and speedy social engineers get so many women that we become complacent with our success.
We have an “I don’t care if you don’t like what I’m saying to you right now because 95 percent of the people with whom I do this love it so you’re just not for me” attitude. It’s easier for us to just go and approach another woman and number close her in under a minute or take her on an instant date. If you want to see me doing some of this stuff you can in the Videos Section.
Indifference means you don’t care and that is a key to having and demonstrating confidence just like the celebrities, rock stars and other famous people we’re told to envy by Public Relations companies. They don’t “live the rock star lifestyle” by always thinking about how to seem cool or popular. They simply act in a way counter-intuitive to most. The media tells everyone who is cool so that those people get power, attention and “social proof.” They can do what they like, say what they like and act as they like because people around them approve of it and want more. If you’re by yourself, still act in a way consistent with how a celebrity would act. This helps to convince people that you’re the king.
We all have stereotypes in our heads and we have an idea of what a confident guy should be like. Act in accordance with it so that even if you’re not, people will think you are. They’ll treat you well, you’ll feel validated, your short term confidence will grow and you’ll laugh at how you used to be. Unfortunately you may get too inside your own head and never get to even approach a woman because you think there’s “so much more learning to do first.” In reality, this is just an excuse to bide your time and avoid the possibility of rejection.
The only test for simplicity is speed. Look at an iPhone, for example. I can do most things more quickly and simply on my iPhone than on my laptop. I can take and post hidden camera videos 200 times faster than I do on a PC at the touch of a button because I can replicate the same process over and over with lightning speed and little thought. Interacting with women should always be the same and the real way to test is through seeing how fast you can replicate it.
To do something fast you need definite solutions to a wide range of problems and the four keys to seduction: counter-intuitiveness, push/pull, playfulness and indifference. These have proven to be the fastest four principles and my guys are using them right now as their only ways to pick up girls. We’ve tested these principles and know they work by seeing how quickly and accurately a solution can be replicated. It’s the simple way to sort the real gold from the fool’s gold in the real world.
#1 You Actually Try
You will like the fast results from simple things. Once you realize how easy it is to do you’ll simply do what you like, just like a celebrity or a rock star. Unlike a celebrity or a rock star, however, you will know WHY you are the way you are, why people are acting the way they are and can sit back and enjoy knowing that this isn’t just luck or some sort of 15 minutes of fame. You will do this more. Your confidence will improve. You will be happier. Simplicity is the key. Less should do more. Too much information and too many long winded solutions are not solutions; they’re problems when you aspire to improving your social skills.
Always remember: “Talent hits a target no one else can hit; Genius hits a target no one else can see.” I talk about all of this and more in a guide that I’m working on for guys who want the practical ways to apply these four things and to be able to do crazy things. I’ll talk about how to pick up women without talking, how to pick up women using your tongue from two meters away and about validation, confidence and approach anxiety, among other things.
Go to Seduce In Seconds and sign up to my newsletter to get this for free when I finish testing a few more final things and getting the hidden camera videos for them. Alternatively you can get my 30 lesson course on how to pick up women fast here. In case you didn’t download Speed And Simplicity With Women, click here to get the file again. Got questions? Post them here! I’ll be happy to answer them when I can or one of my associate instructors will.