Learn how to approach women the right way
If you’re after the knowledge of how to approach women then continue reading. Today I’m inviting you to come with me to a new world where women actually try to keep you talking to them and not the other way around.
You’re going to learn the right and wrong ways to approach women and a few timeless principles that will help you become the king of any room. At first, approaching women seems rather difficult. Read on, however, and I will show you how to do so with ease and confidence.
You don’t want to be the guy who makes the woman feel awkward or who comes on too hard.
Women are inundated with both of these kinds of guys. They hate these guys because they waste time, breed awkwardness and tension and act like everyone else.
A guy like this is not special and he’s not sweeping her off her feet. Worst of all, once he’s suspected of being one of these guys her defenses go up so that most of what he says will not emotionally stimulate her. In short, his manhood will have a lot more time to enjoy sitting there unused in his pants.
These guys are slow and misdirected. They’re jumping in the water to see if they’ll instantly develop swimming skills, even though they’ll most likely just run into a strong tide and end up sinking.
You’re going to learn how to approach women so that you’ll be jumping into a conversation fully equipped. You will be the submarine, not the castaway who fell overboard.
There are a variety of ways to approach women. All can work, but some only because you’re even approaching her at all and you’re going to pick up more women by talking amateurishly to them than by not talking at all.
This is effort. This wastes time. This is embarrassing.
You need to be “counter-intuitive.” Counter-intuitiveness is one of the four overarching principles of our online and offline courses on how to approach women quickly.
Take her by surprise
This is the dating adaptation of Sun Tzu’s “Art of War’” principles. If you catch her unaware and unprepared you have the advantage because she will have no time to put up her defenses.
I like daytime pickups because women aren’t expecting to be approached, unlike when they’re in the club. Additionally I reap an average of five numbers per day during the 15 minutes I put aside on my 60 minute lunch break. I do this twice a week and have two dates a night.
You can learn to get a woman’s number in a minute and do this today on our site for free but this personal bit of information is not so important here; I’m just bragging to entice you to keep reading.
1) Shock her by what you say:
The way I do this is by “going direct.” Women want a man who takes charge but continues to be gentleman. You’re not there to be friends but you’re also not there to be sleazy. So, muster up some humility, touch her on the arm to get her attention and kickstart the physical escalation. Tell her in a casual but confident way that you’re there because you think she’s cute/funky/captivating.
She’s not hot/stunning/smoking. That’s too heavy. You need to come across as the guy who doesn’t do this to every woman. She’s special and special enough for you to actually take the time to approach her – something she needs to see as a rarity.
The point is, if your woman doesn’t see you stalking her out and approaching her and then gets a rare and sincere compliment, she won’t even have time to think about being defensive.
She will be caught off guard, have no defenses and already be guided into being “swept off her feet.” You hold the broom and you sweep her where you want her to go. The compliment and opener are enough to do this.
2) Attack girl A with a view of capturing girl B.
This is another of Sun Tzu’s principles. You distract her with a “situational opener” and then apply step one. This is basically an extra step you can add to the first if you’re too nervous to begin with it or if it would be too blatant and inappropriate for the situation, such as at a business meeting.
You will distract her defenses with small talk, soften her up a bit and then attack her where it’s needed, on the seduction front. In practical terms this means that once your small talk convinces her that you’re not a sleaze or a shy guy having a shot, she realizes that you’re safe and normal and not some psycho who runs out proclaiming his love for her.
Instead you’re building rapport and heating the oven before you put the turkey in it. Either way the turkey will still get cooked but you may get a better result doing it this way.
The problem is that the woman perceives it as being the exact opposite of counter-intuitiveness. It is what most average shy guys do. They TRY to create conversation from an often lame starting point that is obviously just a cover for trying to talk to her. This is the problem with “opinion openers” which are basically asking a woman a question in an attempt use it as a seed that grows into a decent conversation. It works only 40 percent of the time as it is just way too obvious.
You are to use your opening comment for women who are too shy to be able to take a compliment early in a conversation and for women who are so hot that they hear blatant come-ons all day. The opening comment is less direct but can distract a woman with sincerity.
- The comment needs to be playful. There can be a bit of flirty teasing in it.
- The comment needs to apply to what she is doing and be in context with that.
Approaching in a supermarket example:
You’re in a supermarket and see a woman trying to decide which type of cheese to take. Commenting on her taking a long time shows that you’re perceptive, considerate and sincere. If you’ve realized that she’s taking a while to choose, comment on it.
You : “Now either you’re a real cheese connoisseur and choosing the right Brie is a hard decision to make or you know nothing about cheese” (situational opener).
Her: “You’re right. It’s just so hard. I like cheese; I’m no professional but I just want to try something new”
You: “Well by the time you make up your mind you may as well go home and just slice up the congealed milk you’ll have had sitting in the fridge for a week and use that instead” (teasing shows you’re confident enough to flirt with losing her, which in effect shows you’re not a sleaze nor a shy guy battling at small talk).
Her: “Well Mr. Expert, what would you suggest?”
You: “I’d suggest something inappropriate like accompanying me to my favorite cheese shop a few doors down because the cheese excuse will run out soon and I think I’ll kick myself if I don’t get to find out more about you” (step one and social norms).
This is a technique explained inside our course and is based on stating the obvious to remove social awkwardness. If you just tell her what’s on your mind and state the cliché then you remove the sleaze risk.
Why? Because you communicate to her that you’re aware of what is sleazy and what isn’t.
Additionally it’s the best thing you can do for rapport. It’s the foundation for connecting with anyone. That, however, is another issue for another time. When it comes to knowing how to approach women this is of the most stress free ways to be charming, quell your nerves and most of all put your real self out there in the best possible light.
The best part? It takes about 10 seconds to approach a woman properly. We can even show you just how to do so in our Videos Section.