|Firstly, we receive more than 2,400 emails DAILY just about approach anxiety and how nervousness gets in the way of approaches and progress. We are unequivocally the best in the industry at dealing with this specific issue …we are also very humble.
It is THE most common issue in men who have decided to improve their seduction skills and can often be the most debilitating issue if not remedied properly.
After reading every pickup book, doing 13 face to face workshops and blowing over $70,000 on seduction products it still took me 2 years to make my first approach.
That’s because I was taught incredibly poorly.
So, will your approach anxiety EVER fully go away?
Yes. The catch is that the best approach anxiety killer is approaches themselves aided by anxiety management skills and tools we will provide you with. If you do a minimum of 3 approaches every day to anyone, not just women then very quickly this will no longer plague you.
If you do this for a year, have no more approach anxiety then don’t do another approach for the next 6 months then it will start to creep back again because you’re not as desenitised are you originally were.
When I was a competitive kick boxer and trying to compensate for “not feeling like a big man” my teacher used to make me kick rock hard sand bags. The first month was a nightmare, I would kick it once a day and the pain never got better (I think you can see where this is going).
After a month I decided this wasn’t for me, it hurt too much and I quit kickboxing until a year later when a friend told me he kicked it hard and fast for two days straight. His shins became desensitized to the pain and he didn’t feel anything there by the end of the week. One year later he won the Australian Kickboxing championship and remained at the top for the next three years.
We deal with approach anxiety at length throughout our online course. What you need to be aware of is, as a Seduce In Seconds member, there are essential core concepts which need to be internalised before you do go out and start to do full-blown approaches.
Our course and its exercises are designed to get your confidence up by adding a variety of ammunition to your seduction arsenal. Anxiety is often caused by not knowing what to say or not feeling confident in approaching women. For this reason we’ve spent the past 6 years developing a mix of tools you can use to get past this as painlessly as possible.
Some of these tools are:
- Exercises prescribed to you early on in your first few lessons to get you out and socialising instantly. These may not always be full-blown pickups and are designed to get you to socialising with women you already know or have recently picked up after lesson 1 without getting rejected or putting so much pressure on you that you overload and give up.
It is a gradual thing that can take up to a few weeks to dispel but what is for sure is that if you do follow the exercises within the first week your anxiety will dissipate.
- Specific lessons early on in the course such as Lesson 4 (Attracting Everyone) and Lesson 6 (Starting the Conversation) and specifically Lesson 7 (The Mercenary) that drill deep into in to approaching and getting past approach and rejection anxiety. Throughout most of our other lessons T also talks about approach anxiety techniques in his videos and gives you a wide variety of ways to get over it.
- The ability to skip ahead lessons so you don’t have to wait. Don’t freak out when you’re still on the $3.99 trial and get charged $20, our system knows this and will still credit those discounted lessons to your account. Skipping ahead a lesson will not see you pay any more than you already agreed, it simply takes an extra lesson and adds it to this month’s charge.
Our online course (if you are already a member) does provide in depth detailed answers on these topics. I’d answer them for you here and now yet I am not qualified to do so, I am a customer service manager and these answers are reserved for seasoned pickup artists and, once again, are in our online course.
This is why the online course at www.seduceinseconds.com was created, to more easily service your needs. We do have diagnostic tools, forms, information and videos within the course that do deal with these issues. If you are in need of URGENT personal advice T does do the occasional free tele-seminar where you can ask him specific questions relating solely to your situation, though these are rare occurrences unless a specific offer was put to you.
However, if you feel you cannot wait we can aim to reserve a spot for you for some phone coaching with T. These are delivered in 1 hr blocks at $350 each though we are currently booked out for these for a while. Cancellations do often occur though. If you wish, you can send us an email with “COACHING WAITING LIST” in the subject line and we will contact you when a free position arises.