The Push / Pull Technique and How To Use it to Attract Women

February 7, 2017



 How The  Push / Pull Technique Works

Sending mixed messages is undisputedly one of the most powerful internal techniques to attract women. Indifference to a man is as stink is to a monkey and if done right, not only will you get women attracted to you faster but will earn you more respect with them in the process. During all your interactions there needs to be an element of mystery and curiosity that keeps your woman chomping at the bit. An often used analogy with a cat and twine to helps to communicate the dynamics of female interest.

If you dangle twine outside of a cat’s reach just enough so that its paw can just touch it but never obtain it you will have it mesmerized for hours. If you give it a taste of what it wants but never let it have the whole thing it will remain in your control. However once you give the entire piece of twine to the cat it will play with it for a few seconds, enjoy it and then realize the hunt is over and move on.

If you have not noticed by now, you need to be the twine just in the cat’s reach. The ultimate way to attract women is to tease but never fully give in. When I say “give in” I am in no way referring to sex, I am talking about letting them know 100% about yourself, always aim to maintain an element of mystery and realize that you never have to be 100% compliant. Although if you hold the string too far out of the cat’s reach and it will see the challenge as unattainable and lose interest. Give too much twine too early and the cat will not appreciate it and get bored rather quickly.

Even months into a relationship I will let something slip to continually make the woman aware that there is more to me than they initially thought. This can be anything from being an artist to taking a keen interest in cooking. Either way, the moment they feel they know you inside and out they will loose interest in you, always keep the chase alive.

You can instill mystery, wonder and highly potent attraction in your woman through two main techniques that have remarkable effectiveness: push / pull and indifference.

This is one of the most commonly recognized dating advice due to its potency and effectiveness. The idea is simple, in your interactions you need to concurrently push them away for every time you pull them in to you.

Pushing your woman involves a disapproval of something they have done or something about the way they are. You are going to have to gauge how far you believe you can push the woman without them being totally offended. In a way this is you testing their frame, you are disapproving of something, which shows you are not like all the other guys who want to bed them and who tell them everything is wonderful. Once you push them away from you and create attraction you must always reduce its effects with something accepting or complimentary that does not relate to their looks (fashion sense is fine to mention though).

Too much of a push and you alienate her and come off as an asshole, too much pulling and you will seem easy. You need to make them feel like they are on an emotional roller coaster. They will not be able to figure you out, you will create more mystery, playfulness and consequently attraction. Here is an example conversation:

Her: I love sushi
You: really? Raw fish is pretty gross (push) but at least you have great taste in cocktails (pull), that mojito looks delicious.


Her: I love horror movies, there is something about aliens that really interests me
You: yes I can see that, you nerd! (push) That’s ok, I played dungeons and dragons once myself, we’ll get along great (pull)

The aim is to be subtle without being blatantly rude. If you are finding that you are coming across as rude you need to work on your delivery, it needs to be playful and shall be discussed later. How do you know if you are being rude? You say something and they give you a greasy look, they look at each other with a perplexed expression or they get defensive and tell you to take a long walk off a short pier.

Frequently apply this technique to keep them interested in you as they will never be able to fully figure you out. People find comfort in being able to stereotype their relationships, it helps them know how to act, what to say and what to do. The beauty here is that the push and the pull are pure opposites; 50% of them say “He likes you” the other 50% says “He’s not interested”.

Another way to achieve the same effect is the hot / cold tactic, which is to be used later on in your relationship and is designed to make their interest in you peak. Do not use this theory if you are not prepared for the target to fall in love with you. A big claim to make I know but I am talking purely from results.

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Your Dating Hacker,

Jonathan Sankey

1 Comment. Leave new

Any more push/ pull tactics to put to use. I am interested in learning. I am understanding that I have to become their priority#1.
More examples please!
I must have more

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