16 Oct

The Handshake – A Powerful Flirting Technique

Use custom handshake to shake her world!


  • A Handy Trick To Demonstrate Playfulness
  • How To Use The Handshake
  • Repetition Is The Key To Success

    A Handy Trick To Demonstrate Playfulness

    A customized handshake can build amazing comfort with your lady and speed up seductions. This comprises you inventing a special handshake with the woman and using it every time you see her (especially in front of her friends) and particularly in front of her boyfriend or other males. It is a perfect tool for covertly diffusing a boyfriend. You demonstrate a playfulness most long-term relationships lack and will make her man jealous, which is definitely an unattractive quality in anyone’s eyes.

    How To Use The Handshake

    One example was a cute law student living with her French boyfriend of five years who compensated for his insecurities by being hostile. I took the handshake from top-gun (the windmill: where you give a high-five and then swing it down for a low five in one circular motion) and coupled it with a ridiculous leg shake (where you both lift your right leg, grab each other’s ankle and shake it).

    In this situation the guy (Greg) called the shake “gay” and then Read More

    09 Oct

    What to do if You Were Stood Up?

    How To Deal With Being Stood Up


    • 2 Reasons Why Girls Will Stood You Up
    • What To Do After Being Stood Up
    • How To Prevent Flaking
    • Recovering From A Flake

    A “Flake” is a girl who fails to turn up to arrangements, hence the term “flaking” being used as synonym to being “stood up” on a date.

    2 Reasons Why Girls Will Stood You Up

    Firstly, you did not build enough attraction for them initially and you ended your interaction or called them too early before they had enough incentive to see you.

    Secondly, she is flaky by nature. Some girls have personalities that are so unpredictable, illogical, or inconsiderate that not only will they flake on you but also on their family, friends, and even their gynecologist. Either way, don’t take it to heart as a rejection…do not ever take rejections to heart.

    What if she was really hot? Or what if you talked for two hours and you think she is ‘the one?’

    You then have one last chance. Never call them to organize another arrangement; they need to call you and apologize. If she stood you up, follow the process below.

    What To Do After Being Read More

    11 Sep

    25 minute Podcast to Help You with Basic Seduction Theory

    Jonathan Sankey w Lauren

    Have you ever wanted to ask the fastest seducer in the world some questions of your own?

    Here’s a 25 minute extended interview (Pt1) with the Love Bytes crew: Download the 25 minute segment HERE (Direct Link)

    Man holds girl in blue dressA RECENT INTERVIEW WITH “T” THE DATING COACH:

    I’ll fill you in below on things like why I’ve been M.I.A., outlooks for the future, more free stuff and a little bit about what you’re learning here and from whom you’re learning it.

    Let me first say how sorry I am for neglecting my loyal bloggers and fans. We have been flat out booked with overseas workshops and testing out what looks like the soon-to-be 5th Pillar of Seduction, so that’s why I’ve been gone. I didn’t want to say anything until I was sure that it is deserving of such a position among the other four core principles. I’ve also been coming to you. From Africa, the Middle East, North America and Asia, our goal to extend Seduce In Seconds’ ideology is spreading like wildfire. Everyone from students to judges has applied my DATING TECHNIQUES to other uses that I’ve never even conceived. It has now inspired me to actually publish my original Read More

    04 Sep

    Video: T Picks Up 2 Girls In Spain By Stealing their Handbags

    T picks up two girls and slaps ones head

    How do you pick up two women walking down the street during the day?

    Picking up in Australia is one thing and in America it’s another, but Europe and the Middle East have some of the most forthright, macho guys I’ve ever encountered.

    I have to admit I feel a little guilty about talking to these girls…

    I’ve been neglecting YOU since I’ve been on my World Tour teaching people in over 16 countries how to Seduce In Seconds using my four simple principles. In case you’re new to the site, they pervade every saucy blog post in which I practically explain how to pick up women in seconds.

    So to make it up to you and also to bitch slap the haters who think “Aussie girls are sluts, of course he can pick them up,” I’ve decided to actually prove to you how effectively these principles work. The BIGGEST haters by far are the people who can’t stand the fact that if I don’t like the look of a friend of theirs (not sexually, I just mean they look like serious obstacles), I would rather just ignore them and get in and out of there ASAP before they Read More

    28 Aug

    T’s 3 Hit Hybrid Opener:Amazing Way To Create Conversation Starters

    Hybrid Opener Best Way To Create Conversation Starters


    •  T’s 3 Hit Approach For Starting A Conversation
    •  Two Things To Remember When Telling Your Conversation Starters
    • Assume Value And Don’t Be Afraid Of Rejections

    T’s 3 hit opener is the most effective way to start a conversation with a group or a person as it gives them four opportunities to converse with you when a regular opener gives only one.

    This hybrid opener is a process rather than a pickup line or a gimmick. The process is made up of steps that, within themselves, can still open a group but when combined they give three different opportunities for your target to hook which makes for a more fluent and natural opener. Following this process enables you to create amazing conversation starters.

    The aim with the three hit conversation starter is that every time you move forward to the next step you look back at the previous step for context. Sounds cryptic I know, but bear with me as there’s an example further down.

    Personally I have always found opening to be my weakness. Almost all regular conversation starters had serious flaws in them. I felt that it was awkward going up to Read More

    05 Aug

    Blueprint for How to Be Popular

    school boy

    Want to be the “cool guy” at school, college or work? Hold on, here’s how…

    Whether it’s about popularity in school or later in life, you’re about to discover why you never were one of the “cool kids” at school, why you may not be one of the “cool kids” post-school and how you can change that quickly and easily. Even though most of my clients are around the ages of 24 to 60, I still receive many requests from younger guys and girls for help with picking up at school as well as popularity issues. For those of you not in school anymore, this article is still for you because I will show you how nothing has changed in people’s mentalities.

    school boy A picture from the first party of the “popular kids.” I discovered what it was to be “counter-intuitive” so I wore my school uniform (but without a shirt underneath) because I knew it was the last thing anyone would ever dare to do at one of these parties (which were generally just fashion parades). It was time to whip out the “bad ass.” Notice the “cool guy” in the background just walking off. He lacked strategy and was Read More

    31 Jul

    The Physical Elements Of Approaching:Body Language, Eye Contact And Voice

    Body language voice eye contact


  • One Simple Tip To Improve Your Body Language
  • How To Talk To Women: Using Your Voice Properly
  • Don’t Forget Eye Contact
  • The Physical Elements Checklist
  •  One Simple Tip To Improve Your Body Language

    Every time you go to a club or bar there are at least 10 guys in there who have gone up to a girl and have come across needy. Approaching front on so that you are face to face with the target can seem confrontational and needy at the best of times. Men also tend to lean in when they feel they need to be accepted. This kind of body language communicates neediness, which is highly unattractive.

    Approaching side on as if you are almost talking over your shoulder to them can fix the first aspect. The second aspect of leaning in can be fixed by standing up straight.

    I might sound like your mother but bear with me. Standing up straight might fix you seeming needy but it does not give you an edge. It is essential that you lean back slightly as if you are sitting in the seat of a sports car. This way you are Read More

    24 Jul

    Opening:Should You Use a Direct or an Indirect Opener?

    Should You Use Direct or Indirect Opener?


    • Difference Between Direct And Indirect Opener
    • The Real Reason To Use Indirect Opener
    • Drawbacks Of Indirect Opener
    • Your Ultimate Goal Is To Be Direct

    The style of opening(initiating conversation with a woman) you will learn here is unlike any other in the world. The reason is that it is a process designed to help you grow into a man who can open every time successfully whilst being as lazy as possible. The goal is to put in as little effort as possible to get the greatest result.

    Difference Between Direct And Indirect Opener

    Approaching women can be done either directly or indirectly. Both methods have their advantages and disadvantages.

    An indirect approach occurs anytime the man uses an innocuous pretense as an excuse to talk to a woman. An innocuous pretense is any reason that would be seen as non-threatening, such as asking for the time, for directions or for an opinion.

    A direct approach occurs anytime the man does not attempt to mask his true reason for talking to a woman. Direct approaches can range in intensity from the lukewarm “How’s it going” to the warm “I had to come over and Read More

    17 Jul

    Blueprint To Self-confidence: 4 Techniques That Will Improve Your Approach

    How to improve your self-confidence


    • Importance of The First Three Minutes of The Approach
    •  The Guinea Pig Technique: Proven Way To Reduce Your Anxiety
    •  The Female Friend Technique: Increase Self-confidence by Visualization
    • The Cameron Diaz Technique: How to Convey Exclusivity
    • The Best Friend Technique: Another Great Way To Boost Self-confidence

    Importance of The First Three Minutes of The Approach

    Women will decide their attraction for you within the first 3 minutes, which is why we will be briefing in detail on this crucial period of time. Below are some of my own techniques I used to help me with my anxiety.

    The Guinea Pig Technique: Proven Way To Reduce Your Anxiety

    When you start your night make your first four approaches groups of people who are merely test-subjects. They can be anyone you are not attracted to and their sole purpose is to get you warmed up and reduce your anxiety. You will be more confident if you are not intimidated by intimidated by looks and less attractive girls appear more approachable and less pretentious. You can even start by approaching all-guy sets or moving into a warm-set (someone you know or have been introduced to).

    The aim Read More

    10 Jul

    Getting Over Approach Anxiety And The Fear Of Rejection



    •  Why You Shouldn’t Take Rejections Personally
    • Rejection Does Not Kill You
    • Fast Way To Get Rid Of Approach Anxiety
    • Amazing Exercise To Overcome Shyness

    Why You Shouldn’t Take Rejections Personally

    A lot of men are afraid that by being rejected they will feel less of a man and people may talk/laugh/point at them. Particularly if you are being natural, as no one likes to feel that they were rejected for being themselves. As you can imagine, the psychological effects of rejection are often magnified and foster issues ranging from poor self-esteem to having less patience for family and friends. Some people even kick small animals; there are a lot of sore guinea pigs around.

    The idea behind rejection anxiety stems from the belief that if a woman rejects your advance she rejects you personally.

    This is far from the truth.

    Attractive women get approached constantly by men wanting to bed them, the moment they realise your initial intentions are sexual they will often put up their defenses and test you. It is better to play it cool, fly under the radar and only communicate your interest once their defenses have lowered. Look Read More

    03 Jul

    Fun Tactic To Use: Disqualifiers In Flirting



    • Fly Under the Radar
    • Play a Matchmaking Game To Show Your Positive Traits
    • Understand the Disqualifier Technique
    • Special Tip

    Question:Why are you talking to this woman in the bar sitting next to you?
    Answer:You want to get laid.
    Question:What do you think is going through her mind as to why you are here?
    Answer:That you want to get laid.

     Fly Under the Radar

    Your goal is to fly under the radar the whole time. You can disqualify yourself as a potential suitor when you feel that the girl has an inkling too early on in the interaction that your intentions are things other than teddy bears and watching Desperate Housewives. You need to make them feel the same safety they have when they are with a married man. They know he is a neutralized threat so they give him a greater chance.

    Women instinctively are hardwired not to be used by men. This whole need for security, fidelity and legitimacy stems back to our tribal day where a woman would need a man to help her hunt, protect her from animals and ultimately survive. If a woman kept sleeping Read More

    26 Jun

    Three Key Things To Remember When Approaching Women



    • Keep Your Standards
    • Improve Your Approaches: Use False Time Constraint

    • Ride the Emotional Wave: Associate Yourself  With Good Emotions

     Keep Your Standards

    Initially your aim is to make your women feel like they have to earn your presence otherwise you will leave. You need to already assume that every women wants you, have standards, and if someone steps out of line you call them on it. Knowing what you want is attractive, knowing what you don’t want is essential.

    During your first impression your pre-learnt lines and your opener (the first line spoken) are just an excuse to demonstrate attributes about yourself nonverbally through your body language. This form of communication is harder to fake and is far more potent with women than trying to show off through talking. It is the way you hold yourself and deliver your speech that is the most important part of your interactions. You need to convey that you have better offers if the people you are with mistreat you or are not up to your standards.

    Improve Your Approaches: Use False Time Constraint

    The first thoughts that enter a group’s mind when a foreigner enters Read More

    19 Jun

    The Way To Deal With Difficult People

    How to Deal With Difficult People


    • People Are Mentally Prepared Based On Their Previous Experiences
    • Surprise Them By Being Different
    • How To Deal With Difficult People: A Shocking Example

    A lot of the psychology you will learn from my Online Dating Course for Men can apply to other areas of life as well, like your family and the business world. Being counterintuitive can come in handy in all circumstances where people base their actions on what they believe you will do because that’s what the normal person would do.

    People Are Mentally Prepared Based On Their Previous Experiences

    If your flat-mate left dirty dishes in the sink for the fifth time that week and always argues with you about cleaning them then you begin to mentally predict what will happen this time based on your past experiences. It usually takes the format of “I will tell him to clean the plates, he wont agree until I do the bathroom, we’ll argue again about having no cleaning products, neither of us will go to the supermarket out of spite and nothing will get done.” If you think there’s a chance you will have the argument again, your brain, as if Read More

    12 Jun

    How To Make a Woman Fall In Love With You



    • How To Make a Woman Fall In Love With You
    • 3 Step Guide To Make Her Want You
    • The Story Behind This Dating Advice
    • It Works Ten Out Of Eleven Times

    How To Make a Woman Fall In Love With You

    If you do not want your woman to fall in love with you then stop reading, this has only been tested eleven times, ten of which have seen the receiving party become infatuated with the man. If you are not prepared to reciprocate the feelings you are about to create, then stop reading.

    If you are doing this only to get sex, then stop reading. This technique is to be used when your woman is still sitting on the fence when it comes to commitment to either a relationship or taking your relationship further (be that to a sexual level or otherwise). If you feel someone still is not sure about you this is perfect. It has shown to increase people’s emotional investment from levels around 40% to 90% in the applications I have done and seen my students do.

    3 Step Guide To Make Her Want You

     First Step: Keep Frequent Read More

    05 Jun

    Keep Them Guessing With Takeaway Technique



    • 3 Useful Examples of How to Use Takeaways in Seduction (and I’m not talking about food here)
    •  Why It Isn’t Always a Good Idea to Have Sex On the First Opportunity
    • Be a Man and Share the Moral Burden Associated With Sex
    • Key Dating Advice: Be Different But Not a Liar

    The foundations of this theory are based on simple psychology: create pleasure and then show you have the power to take it away. You need to get women excited or interested in something and then take it away at its peak. This alone will not get you highly potent results as timing helps, so I have helped adapt this theory to the three most crucial points in any seduction to increase its potency.

    3 Useful Examples of How to Use Takeaways in Seduction

    On the phone: Most conversations have a point in time where both people are genuinely interested in the conversation (the social hook point) and have an urge to continue talking to the other party. When the other party says things like “Oh my God I know exactly what you mean etc” or when you ask them a question Read More

    29 May

    How to Be Indifferent: Push and Pull Technique Introduced



    • Understand the dynamics of the female interest
    • Easy dating advice that helps to keep women interested in you
    • A Great Push and Pull technique

     Understand the Dynamics of the Female Interest

    Sending mixed messages is undisputedly one of the most powerful internal techniques to attract women. Indifference to a man is as stink is to a monkey and if done right, not only will you get laid faster but with this great dating advice you can more easily lure someone into falling in love with you(you should also check our other article on how to make a woman fall in love with you).

    During all your interactions there needs to be an element of mystery and curiosity that keeps your woman chomping at the bit. An often used analogy with a cat and twine to helps to communicate the dynamics of female interest.

    If you dangle twine outside of a cat’s reach just enough so that its paw can just touch it but never obtain it you will have it mesmerized for hours. If you give it a taste of what it wants but never let it have the whole thing it Read More

    22 May

    Being Counterintuitive: How to get women instantly more attracted to you



    • To Be Different From Other Men
    • How To React When You Get a Woman’s Number
    • Training Yourself To Be Counterintuitive and Playful
    • How To Be Sarcastic

    Be Different From Other Men

    Ever had a night where you felt like the king, you could do anything with anyone and get away with it yet next weekend you were using the same lines on the same people but you got nowhere. What will always differentiate you from the average male is making a conscious effort to be counterintuitive during your interactions with women.

    The underlying premise of how to talk to women is this: you need to differentiate yourself from every other man out there by teasing women. It helps to do this playfully so they are not fully sure as to whether you are serious or not.

    How To React When You Get a Woman’s Number

    An example may be when you get a woman’s number. The average man would either say “thank you” or something along the lines of “I’ll call you tomorrow at eight, I’d really like to continue our conversation about Mexican food / going overseas / the effect of tariffs Read More

    15 May

    The 8 Characteristics You Need to Demonstrate to Attract Women

    Day 2 Creating The Attraction From Your Brains


    • Attraction Just Works Differently Than You Might Think
    • The 8 Traits That Are Going to Help You!
    • Go and Practice Them

    Attraction Just Works Differently Than You Might Think

    Have you ever wondered why men who have nothing going for them can attract hot women? (And no, paying for the drinks is not the correct answer.) Have you ever seen a beautiful woman with an average looking guy? He may have been bald, losing his hair, short, fat with a third arm growing out of his forehead and strangely enough he is still able to have a smoking little bunny as a girlfriend or FB (friend with benefits). This is because attraction is created in our minds by what society tells us is attractive.

    Take a look at any paintings done over 200 years ago. The women are, by contemporary standards, overweight, pasty and plain. No one now is attracted to that because society’s perceptions of what is attractive have changed. Ultimately “beauty” is a social construct which is subject to change. Regardless of your looks you can create attraction with the woman you are interested in (the target). Just as society tells Read More

    08 May

    Sorry Should Be The Hardest Word To Say

    Saying Sorry


    • The Power of Words
    • The ‘I am sorry’-mentality
    • Perceived Weaknes

    The Power of Words

    Words can be powerful things. Someone who has a depression might be constantly saying to themselves that life is useless, not worth living. They will use these words in their everyday speech as well, and in doing so they convey negative emotions just by speaking and can also make other people around them depressed just through their choice of words. Someone who avoids social situations would tell themselves they are not the extroverted type and they can never compete with upbeat party people. They say this to themselves so convincingly that they do not even bother to go out and try.

    A Buddhist monk would continually free his mind of all these thoughts through meditation and prayers affirming the beauty of life. In this instance I do not want you to dwell on your internal dialogue specifically but rather how the things you say to others can affect your own self-esteem and the way other people see you.

    The ‘I am sorry’-mentality

    Constantly apologizing is one of the things that can keep you stuck in a mindset where you Read More

    01 May

    You Are Responsible For Your Own Anxiety:The Power Of Positive Thinking

    Wrong Song


    • You Are Creating Your Own Anxiety
    • Stop Your Negative Thoughts With Pattern Interrupt
    • 2 Great Techniques For Pattern Interrupt

    You Are Responsible For Your Own Anxiety

    We all have negative voices in our heads repeating certain ideas and perceptions we have about ourselves over and over. Each time an emotion is created from these thoughts our brain sends an electrical signal from one part to another. Too many repetitions of one negative emotion can see this connection forming a solid path in our thought processes and is quite difficult to avoid. Our thought processes can begin to be likened to a record on a turntable. The record has grooves and once you start the needle on the record it begins to follow the same path every time and same music will play verbatim again and again.

    A lot of the time this is the wrong song playing in your head. A man can stand in a night club all night in fear of approaching a woman at the bar. Every time he takes a step forward in her direction he feels inadequate because he feels he is not good looking enough to have Read More

    24 Apr

    The Unseeable Reality Behind Mindsets: 5 Exercises Revealed

    How to change your mindset


    • The Simple Way To Train Your Nerves
    • Start Understanding and Using Power Words
    • Preparation Is Everything
    • Lead Your Brain The Right Way

    Visualization is a powerful technique for becoming better at a task without actually having to complete it.

    Our mind and body can react to simple thoughts and fantasies in much the same way as it responds to actual events. Many psychologists and biochemists believe the nervous system cannot tell the difference between real or perceived threats, you produce the same chemical reactions in your brain when you dream or visualize as you do in reality.

    Fact: Two surgeons, Terry Orlick & Judy McDonald, would vividly imagine themselves cutting through fat and muscles in order to be more prepared for an upcoming operation. They would imagine certain setbacks and how they would regain composure and overcome them which overall dramatically improved their success rates when put in the real situation.

    Using this powerful technique is just one of the many free dating tips we share with you. With the exercises below you can help prepare yourself for any social situation.

    The Simple Way To Train Your Nerves


    The more real your Read More

    17 Apr

    Change The Way Your Anxiety Works

    Within a Hand's Reach


    • How it all started to change
    • Sincerely saying what they need
    • The real smile

    How it all started to change

    Tantric sex instructor and close friend, Ven helped me get past some serious approach anxiety and sincerity issues whilst we were doing a pickup workshop together a while back. The exercise was to stop 60 random women in the space of two hours and pay them a compliment not associated with sex.

    He was getting some of the most positive reactions from a myriad of gorgeous women yet for some reason when I delivered the same compliment e.g. “Excuse me that is the funkiest handbag I’ve seen all day” they looked at me like “Thanks but please don’t cut me into little bits”.

    Sincerely saying what they need

    Ven, having done some acting in his time began to teach me how to pay a compliment and make it sound sincere even when you mean none of it. Let us take the handbag example; one girl I approached had an ordinary handbag with nothing really interesting on it. I visualized her handbag as one that was bright green with feathers all over it and Read More

    10 Apr

    Being Alpha Shouldn’t Be Enough For You

    Don't take the bait


    • Acting Un-reactive In Reactive Situations
    • What Would Brad Pitt Do?
    • Brad Pitt vs. Tupac The Battle of Unreactivness
    • What Does It Take To Be Unreactive?

    It has been said over and over again in the pick-up artist community that you should be alpha. That is important, of course, but at the same time, that same sense of urgent alphaness can lower your value.

    A person,can get so caught up in being alpha that they become over-reactive to everything. Any disrespect thrown in his face becomes an immediate threat to his alphaness that must be neutralized.

    This can be seen in bullies, ghetto thugs, and beach surfer Alpha Male Of the Group that get near violent when you tool them back.

    Acting Unreactive in Reactive situations

    The bottom line is that you can be alpha, a leader and dominant, but if you’re reactive you’re still insecure as fuck, and it shows. You’ll get women, but you bet your ass they will be low quality women. What kind of woman wants a guy who can’t control himself? Think of a guy who feels his time at the top is so temporary that he must protect Read More